faults, but surely before this happens I can do something that will keep
me from growing fond of a person whom I ought not to marry! People who
study marriage and become familiar with its emotional demands must have
learned some facts that offer guidance in choosing a life mate."

Indeed, there are such, and here are some that prove useful during
courtship, the destiny-deciding period in most people's matrimonial
career:

_1. Don't let yourself fall in love with the first person who comes
along; meet as many young people of the opposite sex as you can._

The young man or young woman should seek to know as many agreeable,
companionable persons of the opposite sex as possible without the
strain of attempting to establish a reputation for popularity. These
acquaintances, as much as possible, should have a background essentially
similar to one's own, and they should be sought as friends rather than
as lovers. It is obvious that one's affection must turn to some one whom
one knows, and before the awakening of strong feeling there should be as
wide an experience--the man with women, and the woman with men--as
possible. He or she who fails to go about with young people, as
opportunity comes, loses the only way there is to gain the knowledge
that is necessary later to make a wise choice of husband or wife.

_2. Don't judge by party manners and dress; everyday life is different._

In this association with members of the opposite sex, the young man or
woman should seek to know, in as many and as everyday situations as
possible, those who prove attractive. The party and the dance need not
be neglected. Anyone who proves interesting at such occasions must,
however, also be known in other more usual and commonplace
circumstances. The mere being with members of the opposite sex will not
in itself bring insight. One must learn to observe the reactions, the
attitudes, the emotional characteristics of anyone whom one likes.
Effort must be made to explore the other's personality, not in a
cold-blooded, analytical way, but naturally and yet with open eyes, so
that there may be genuine understanding of the characteristics of those
who seem to be good candidates for matrimony.

_3. Study your own emotional reactions as you go along; your mate should
bring out the best that is in you._

This association should also help the young man or woman to become
better acquainted with himself or herself. Marriage happiness cannot be
achieved me