ildhood that led to fear,
shame, or guilt, the three chief enemies of happy sex life in marriage.

The mere opportunity to talk over anything related to sex adjustment
about which they are anxious brings to many young people a wonderful
relief. The best way to get the full value of this service is to read
first, as young people are so anxious to do, some sensible, honest, and
reliable book that at least in part treats the problems of sex
adjustment in marriage, and then to gather up the questions that are
personally troublesome or that come because something is not quite clear
and take them to the physician at the time of the premarital
examination.

Young people should realize also that beyond the value of this
examination in itself, it is helpful in that it encourages an
intelligent attitude toward all later problems that may arise in
marriage. It emphasizes the fact that the best way of dealing with any
difficulty is to face it frankly, try to understand it, and then seek
the best possible help.

Young people are so conscious of the help they need for the carrying on
of their marriage and family career that in every part of the United
States we have petitions from students asking college administrators for
courses in preparation for marriage. But if every college were giving
this instruction, we could not expect that it would reach all American
youth. Other institutions and organizations must carry on in the same
way, so that other groups than college young people may get their chance
to have a modern entrance into marriage. The need of emotional
preparedness for marriage must be stressed. The opportunity to start
marriage right by bringing the resources of experience and of science
should be the birthright of all American youth. These young people seek
specific, practical information that will give them insight. They are
eager to keep to the pathway leading not only to a satisfying marriage
but to a marriage whose meaning goes forward along with our advancing
civilization.

_Dr. James L. McConaughy_

CHAPTER TWO

_Now That You Are Engaged_

"Love is blind," says the adage. "Love should be open-eyed and wise,"
say the modern engaged couple.

A successful marriage depends upon two factors--emotions and brains; no
marriage succeeds unless these are combined. "Falling in love" is
essential, but one can fall out of love as well. Falling in love is the
business of the emotions; staying there, holding yo