ur lover's affection,
requires brains.

A lifetime of happy intimacy between two individuals as different as a
young man and a young women can be attained if the mind is used. It is
only the old fogy who thinks modern young people "know too much."
Psychology teaches us that all emotions deserve study; if they are
wisely utilized, happiness results; if they are thoughtlessly spent or
thwarted, we may pay the price in unsatisfied lives, broken hopes,
sometimes in psychiatric disturbances.

The engagement period--if it is approached intelligently--can be a time
not only of supreme happiness, but of wise growth in understanding and
preparation for marriage. Unfortunately, modern young people sometimes
resent the idea that any one else can help them solve their problems.
Advice may seem to them interference. "We are going to live our own
lives. Why should any one else care what we do? Why should outsiders
feel that they have a right to tell us 'do' or 'don't'?" Such an
attitude is understandable, but it is unfortunate, and the young people
are the ones who suffer. Perhaps it is true that the older generation
feels that it must advise youth, even attempting to control it; but it
is also true that we, nearer the end of the road, should be qualified to
furnish a map of the way to those about to start out upon it. Thanks to
modern scientific methods, the map is now much more accurate than the
one handed over to us. There are certain well-charted highroads where
there were once only brambled trails.

Among the scientific methods are the statistical studies of marriage;
these show certain interesting conclusions. College people have a higher
percentage of successful marriages--at least, they show a lower divorce
ratio. Apparently college graduates use their minds in picking a mate
and in preparing for marriage. Marriages between those who have gone to
coeducational colleges appear to have a still higher chance of success.
This is probably the result of close association between the sexes in
such institutions. But the use of one's mind is what is important;
marriage _can_ be fully as successful for those who are not
college-trained.

According to statistical studies, overdominance by parents decreases the
chance of successful marriage. Apron strings never aid engaged couples.
A good rule for families is to let the young people avail themselves of
parental suggestion, not to force dictates upon them.

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