umb bids and play. If she enjoys art and finds an
art exhibit worth while, do not be the dumb male and say that this means
nothing to you; let her teach you what pictures can mean--and to real he
men, too. If she enjoys good music--going to concerts or listening to
the radio--try to share her pleasure and discover what it is that really
gives her such satisfaction. In other words, if either has a favorite
sport or a hobby, the other should try to join in--at least in the
evident satisfaction it gives. Just going to the movies, or sitting on
the sidelines watching others play, is not the ideal joint use of
leisure; young couples should actually _do_ something _together_.

Exercise--active sports--helps keep every one up to par physically;
good health is one of the surest foundations for a happy marriage.
Divorce thrives among those below par; mental health, serenity, poise,
and mutual consideration are all aided by good physical condition.

And remember that mental energy needs an outlet, too. The stimulation of
good conversation in mixed groups has a favorable effect on the
emotional life of women as well as men. American husbands often err in
not drawing out their womenfolk; contempt for their ideas is too
frequent.

Those who are wisest about successful marriages advise against long
engagements. A hasty marriage and a short engagement are not the same
thing. An engaged couple who are sure of their hearts and minds should
be helped to marry as soon as the plans for the marriage can be wisely
worked out. This usually involves finances--"How soon can we afford it?"
Wise parents today cooperate so that the young couple do not have to
wait too long. In many cases the older generation, if it can afford it,
may give a small allowance to the recently married son or daughter.
Money thus given on a definite monthly basis for a previously determined
period means much more than a small bequest when the father dies. Or the
parents may agree, on a plan carefully thought out, to help if
unexpected financial problems beset the young couple. Father may say
that if illness overtakes either, or if the first baby arrives earlier
than planned, or if a sudden decrease in salary comes, he will gladly
help--not with a loan or as a grudging charity but as an interested
party to the success of the marriage.

If the man possibly can, he should take out some insurance, seeking
unprejudiced advice before choosing between the many kinds of poli