e snuffs up his nose, picks it with his fingers,
blows it; and looks in his handkerchief, crams his hands first in his
bosom, and next in his breeches.
6. In short, he neither dresses nor acts like any other but is
particularly aukward in every thing he does. All this, I own, has
nothing in it criminal; but it is such an offence to good manners and
good-breeding that it is universally despised; it makes a man ridiculous
in every company, and, of course, ought carefully to be avoided by every
one who would wish to please.
7. From this picture of the ill-bred man, you will easily discover that
of the well-bred; for you may readily judge what you ought to do, when
you are told what you ought not to do; a little attention to the manners
of those who have seen the world, will make a proper behaviour habitual
and familiar to you.
8. Actions, that would otherwise be pleasing, frequently become
ridiculous by your manner of doing-them. If a lady drops her fan in
company, the worst bred man would immediately pick it up, and give it to
her; the best bred man can do no more; but then he does it in a graceful
manner, which is sure to please; whereas the other would do it so
aukwardly as to be laughed at.
9. You may also know a well-bred person by his manner of sitting.
Ashamed and confused, the aukward man sits in his chair stiff and bolt
upright, whereas the man of fashion is easy in every position; instead
of lolling or lounging as he sits, he leans with elegance, and by
varying his attitudes, shews that he has been used to good company. Let
it be one part of your study, then, to learn to set genteely in
different companies, to loll gracefully, where you are authorised to
take that liberty, and to set up respectfully, where that freedom is not
allowable.
10. In short, you cannot conceive how advantageous a graceful carriage
and a pleasing address are, upon all occasions; they ensnare the
affections, steal a prepossession in our favour, and play about the
heart till they engage it.
Now to acquire a graceful air, you must attend to your dancing; no one
can either sit, stand, or walk well unless he dances well. And in
learning to dance be particularly attentive to the motion of your arms,
for a stiffness in the wrist will make any man look aukward. If a man
walks well, presents himself well in company, wears his hat well, moves
his head properly and his arms gracefully, it is almost all that is
necessary.
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