sure to be one
time or other) they become ridiculous and contemptible; but even
admitting what they say to be true, what then? A man's intrinsic merit
does not arise from an ennobled alliance, or a reputable acquaintance.

25. A rich man never borrows. When angling for praise, modesty is the
surest bait. If we would wish to shine in any particular character, we
must never affect that character. An affectation of courage will make a
man pass for a bully; an affectation of wit, for a coxcomb; and an
affectation of sense, for a fool. Not that I would recommend bashfulness
or timidity; no: I would have every one know his own value, yet not
discover that he knows it, but leave his merit to be found out by
others.

26. Another thing worth your attention is, if in company with an
inferior, not to let him feel his inferiority; if he discovers it
himself without your endeavours, the fault is not yours, and he will not
blame you; but if you take pains to mortify him, or to make him feel
himself inferior to you in abilities, fortune, or rank, it is an insult
that will not readily be forgiven. In point of abilities, it would be
unjust, as they are out of his power; in point of rank or fortune, it is
ill-natured and ill-bred.

27. This rule is never more necessary than at table, where there cannot
be a greater insult than to help an inferior to a part he dislikes, or a
part that may be worse than ordinary, and to take the best to yourself.
If you at any time invite an inferior to your table, you put him during
the time he is there upon an equality with you, and it is an act of the
highest rudeness to treat him in any respect slightingly. I would
rather double my attention to such a person, and treat him with
additional respect, lest he should even suppose himself neglected.

28. There cannot be a greater savageness or cruelty, or any thing more
degrading to a man of fashion, than to put upon, or take unbecoming
liberties with him, whose modesty, humility, or respect, will not suffer
him to retaliate. True politeness consists in making every body happy
about you; and as to mortify is to render unhappy, it can be nothing but
the worst of breeding. Make it a rule, rather to flatter a person's
vanity than otherwise; make him, if possible, more in love with himself,
and you will be certain to gain his esteem; never tell him any thing he
may not like to hear, nor say things that will put him out of
countenance, but let it be your stud