ith afternoon tea.

Conduct of the Guests.

If a visitor on entering the room finds that name or face has not been
remembered by the hostess, let the difficulty be rectified by the
guest pronouncing the name instantly and distinctly, the hostess, on
her part, to remember names and faces. A bad memory is inconsistent
with good manners. In very fashionable houses a servant announces the
name of each guest as they enter, thus saving any confusion.

Should you find yourself ushered into a room where there are several
inmates, all strangers, ask for the individual you wish to see and
introduce yourself distinctly.

If your friend is at a hotel, wait in the parlor until the servant who
carries up your card has returned to tell you whether you can be
admitted. Never follow him as he goes to make the announcement. A
little formality is the best preservative of friendship.

If, while you are paying a visit, other guests arrive, you should,
providing your stay has been sufficiently long, arise so soon as they
are quietly seated, make your adieus to your hostess, bow politely to
the other inmates of the room and take your departure. If you should
be calling upon a lady and meet a lady visitor in her drawing room,
you should rise when that lady takes her leave.

The style of conversation should always be in keeping with the
circumstances under which the visit is made. Common sense alone should
teach us that where a short morning call is in question, light, witty
and quickly-changed subjects only should be entered upon, the nature
of the case plainly prohibiting discussions on many topics.

Gentlemen are expected not to use classical quotations before ladies
without a slight apology and a translation, unless they are aware that
the lady's educational training has made it possible for her to
appreciate them. It would be well if they would use the same courtesy
toward other men not gifted like themselves. For a general maxim, it
may be here recommended not to air one's classical learning
unnecessarily, lest it savor of pedantry.

Guests should greet their hostess cordially, but a bow is usually
sufficient to include the others present.

Young ladies visiting a strange city should not receive calls from a
gentleman without requesting the privilege from their hostess, and
hostess and daughters should be introduced to him. Always avoid the
slightest appearance of seeming to use your friend's house for a
rendezvous.

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