avoided by the exercise of care and
tact on both sides.
The Art of Agreeableness.
Philip Gilbert Hammerton, in his _Intellectual Life_, wisely suggests:
"A married couple are clearly aware that, in the course of a few
years, their society is sure to become mutually uninteresting unless
something is done. What is that something? Every author who succeeds,
takes the trouble to renew his mind by fresh knowledge, new thoughts.
So, is it not at least worth while to do as much to preserve the
interest of marriage?"
The wife who dresses for her husband's sake, who reads that she may
qualify herself for conversation with him, who makes him the chief end
of her cares, and the husband who brings home from the outside world
some of its life and animation to share with her, who has a loving
interest in all that she has done for his pleasure, and, if wealth be
a stranger at their door, stands ready to lift the heaviest burdens
from her shoulders, have solved for themselves the problem of married
happiness, and found it to be a condition wherein every joy is doubled
and every sorrow halved.
Duty Toward One Another.
Let the wife have no confidant as to the little shortcomings of her
husband, over which love, as well as pride, should draw a sheltering
veil. Never listen to an unkind tale of his past or present mistakes,
and count all those who would seek thus to destroy your peace of mind
as your bitterest enemies. Let the husband in his turn remember that
an unkind or slighting word spoken of his wife, touches his own honor
to the quick, and be instant in resenting the words that should never
have been spoken in his presence.
Another point to be remembered in view of the duty of husband and wife
toward one another, is with reference to attending church or
entertainments. The wife has, in all probability, left a home where
the different members of the household were ready to accompany each
other whenever occasion served, and young friends were planning many a
pleasant outing, and now she is wholly dependent upon her husband for
all of these things. Let her beware, under these circumstances, of
allowing herself to attend church, lecture, or any other evening
entertainment, in the company of well-meaning friends. For the
husband, once seeing that his wife can attend these places without his
assistance, will soon, if such be his disposition, remain selfishly
home at all times, or, if otherwise inclined, still more selfis
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