woman.
Let the children grow up in a home where rude gestures, or
ill-tempered words are unknown, where truthfulness, kindliness,
forgetfulness of self and careful consideration of others, permeates
the very atmosphere, and they will go forth into the world armed with
the integrity in which all men may trust, the polish that will win
them admiration, and the true refinement that will render their
friendship elevating.
See, also, that there is perfect unanimity between the parents as to
the government and instruction of the children in the household, and,
if any difference should arise, it should be settled in private.
Children, being strongly imitative, are best taught by example. Never
reprove unless absolutely necessary, and never let the voice rise
excitedly to ensure obedience. By keeping your own voice low and calm,
you do much toward lowering the key of their high-pitched, childish
treble, and soothing the troubled waters of their souls.
Keeping Promises.
Never permit yourself to threaten where you do not perform; children
are quick to learn the value of your promises, and place very accurate
estimates, in their own minds, as to what their parents will, or will
not do under given circumstances. Absolute truthfulness can never be
taught a child by precept, when by constant example he is taught that
the word of his parents has little or no value in his own case, so far
as threats and punishments, or even rewards, extend. If a punishment
is the penalty for a broken law, see that it is inflicted; if a reward
is promised, be sure that it is given.
Enjoin upon children strict justice in their dealings one with
another, even in their games, never allowing the stronger to impose
upon the weak, but teaching forbearance and tenderness in all their
actions.
Talebearing.
Discourage, as far as possible, all talebearing in the home, and, as a
rule, do not listen to complaints, and long recitals of injuries
received from little playfellows. Care in this respect will nip in the
bud the tendency toward exaggeration and talebearing that so early
develops in a child, and so soon matures into the "gossip" of riper
years. This demand for exactitude in childish statements will pave the
way for strictly truthful declarations in the more important affairs
of later life, redounding thus to the lasting benefit of the
individual and the community.
Truthfulness.
The least approach toward prevarication, or concealm
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