e so desire.

Always take the food offered in a course. Quietly wait and talk while
others eat, rather than call the attention of the table to your likes
and dislikes, and disarrange the whole order of serving. If a
gentleman, see that the lady you have brought down wants for nothing,
and let the lady, on her side, take care not to entirely monopolize
the attention of her escort.

How to Treat Waiters.

If, for any cause, the services of a waiter are desired, catch his eye
quietly, and on his approach, state your own or the lady's wishes, in
a low tone of voice. This same rule of conduct will apply to public
places, where the knocking of spoons against cups, and other noisy
attempts to gain the attention of a waiter cannot be too greatly
discouraged.

Never thank a servant for passing any of the dishes or wines; that is
his business; but for any personal service, such as picking up a
fallen napkin, or replacing a dropped knife by another, it is proper
to return a murmured "Thank you," not "Thanks."

A lady should never look up in a waiter's face while giving an order,
refusing wine, or thanking him for any special service. This savors of
familiarity, and should be avoided. A man, however, that is attentive
will see that a lady has none of these things to do.

At table one may talk to one's neighbor on either side, or to those
directly opposite, if the center decorations are not too high; but it
is absolutely ill-bred to lean across an individual to converse with
some one on the other side. Of course, at a small dinner, or at the
family table, conversation is expected to be general. Never attempt to
converse while the mouth is filled with food, and never _have_ the
mouth filled with food; it is bad both for manners and digestion.

Decline any dish passed that you do not wish with "Thank you, not
any;" if by a waiter, "Not any," is sufficient. Do not enter into any
explanations as to your tastes, nor the whys and wherefores of your
refusal. That interests no one but yourself.

If wine is served, do not call the attention of everyone to the fact
that you do not drink it. The table of a friend, to which you have had
the honor of an invitation, is no place for a temperance lecture. Do
not reverse the glass; it is a needlessly conspicuous act; simply
motion the waiter away with your finger on the edge of the glass, or
shake your head. Some, still more careful, allow a glass to be filled
for them at first, and, by