e things will please or displease
them in you."

The social code, even in its smallest particulars, is the outgrowth of
a kindly regard for the feelings of others, even in the little things
of life, and a kindly sympathy for all that interests your
companions.

"Be hospitable toward the ideas of others," says Dr. George Ripley.
"Some people," he asserts, "only half listen to you, because they are
considering, even while you speak, with what wealth of wit they will
reply." Such people may be brilliant, but they can never be agreeable.
You feel that they are impatient to have their own turn come, and have
none of the gentle receptiveness so pleasing to our own _ego_ that
rebels against their egotism.

It is the kind and sympathetic soul that wins friends, and

"He who has a thousand friends
Has not a friend to spare,
But he who has an enemy
Will find him everywhere."

Our first impressions of a man are impressions of his manners. We
designate him from the first glimpse of his face, first sound of his
voice, as an affable, agreeable and sincere individual; or as crabbed,
cross-grained and suspicious in his temperament, and are attracted by,
or repelled from him, according to the characteristics with which his
manners have clothed him.

The Influence of Good Manners.

So potent is this power exercised over the world by the gentle sway of
manners that their possession is worthy the cultivation and care we
put forth for the attainment of all gracious, pleasant things, and to
their possessor is given the key to which all doors open.

Emerson was one of the most acute observers of manners that culture
has ever produced, and he wrote: "The longer I live the more I am
impressed with the importance of manners. When we reflect upon their
persuasive and cheering force, how they recommend, prepare and draw
people together; when we think what keys they are, and to what
secrets; what high and inspiring character they convey and what
divination is required of us for the reading of this fine telegraphy,
we see what range the subject has."

Manners, with some, are the gracious legacy of inheritance, education,
and environment; with others they are the growth of the careful
cultivation of years, and carry with them the calm self-poise of the
man who has conquered circumstances and established his own position.
In such as these there inheres a certain power that impresses itself
upon all who come in conta