e, nor does he make use of the out-of-date formula,
"Excuse my glove." At his departure the lady bows her adieu, but does
not again extend her hand.

The hand-clasp is a cordial expression of good will, but there are
degrees of cordiality to be observed in the performance of this
ceremony. Every one knows, and shudders at, the woman who gives two,
or at most, three fingers of a cold and lifeless hand for a moment
into your keeping, and every one recognizes and fears the man who
swallows up and crushes the entire hand within his powerful grasp.
Each extreme is to be avoided.

A lady should give her whole hand, not her fingers; a gentleman should
receive it cordially, holding it neither too tightly nor too loosely,
shaking it very slightly and not presuming to retain it. Should a
gentleman sin against any of these particulars, a lady is justified in
refusing to offer her hand next time.

A young lady simply gives her hand to a gentleman, neither pressing
nor shaking his, unless it be in the case of especial friends. Two
ladies shake hands quietly. Both ladies and gentlemen always rise to
shake hands. Elderly people, or invalids, are permitted to excuse
themselves and keep their seats.

Ball-room introductions for dancing do not necessitate hand-shaking, a
bow being all that is required. A very particular introduction,
wherever given, such as one prefaced by some remark like, "I want you
to know my friend So-and-So," merits a hand-shake on your part,
together with some cordial remark.

Inferiors in social position should always wait until their superiors
offer the hand, never taking the initiative in this respect. This
precaution will sometimes save them the pain of a marked slight.

Words of Salutation.

Verbal greetings ought always to be quiet and respectful; they should
never be shouted across streets, nor called when the parties are at
any distance from each other. Nicknames should not be used publicly
and promiscuously, in short, all possible respect should be paid to
the feelings of other persons on public occasions.

The phrases, "Good morning," "Good evening," "Good afternoon," "How do
you do?" "How are you?" are the usual forms employed. Sometimes the
name of the person addressed is added, thus: "Good morning, Mrs.
Smith."

Replies to these salutations are sometimes simply a bow from a lady to
a gentleman, or perhaps a bow and a repetition of his greeting, as:
"Good morning, Mr. Jones." "How do you