D MRS. GRANT TROWBRIDGE

may make use of a card four inches long by three and one-half in
width, but a lady and her daughter, where their names appear together,
should use the first-mentioned oblong size for ladies.

Engraving the Name.

Married ladies make a point of using their husband's name or initials
upon their cards instead of their own, as:

MRS. GEORGE B. CLEVELAND,

Or:

MRS. G.B. CLEVELAND,

Instead of:

MRS. GRACE E. CLEVELAND.

It occasionally, however, happens that some lady, unwilling to so lose
the identity of her own name, prefers this latter form. Or, if her
family name be an old and honored one, she frequently retains it,
thus:

MRS. GRACE ETHRIDGE CLEVELAND.

But, though the married woman make use of her husband's name, she has
no claim to his titles; so that while others may address her as "Mrs.
Judge So and So," "Mrs. Dr. So and So," she must carefully avoid all
such display. Let her be comforted, however, as her just pride in her
husband's honors is easily gratified, since she is expected, on all
formal occasions, to leave one of his cards, wherein his titles are
set forth, with her own.

Occasionally a lady contents herself with having engraved upon her
cards a simple:

MRS. COURTHOPE.

This, however, is unwise unless the name is a very uncommon one, and
even then, should there be more than one branch of the family in the
vicinity, the wife of the oldest member of the family only would have
a right to make use of it.

Newly married couples frequently send out for their first cards the
largest size mentioned engraved thus:

MR. AND MRS. HOLMAN B. HUNT.

Occasionally they preserve this custom throughout the entire first
season. But this is all; from thenceforth husband and wife have their
own separate cards. They may, however, be used at times throughout the
married life to convey messages of sympathy, congratulation, or to
accompany gifts.

Widows have always hesitated about exchanging the beloved and
accustomed name upon their cards for their own signature. This,
however, in many cases, is a necessity, especially where there is a
son bearing the father's name. This is sometimes thought to be avoided
by the use of the distinctive "Senior" or "Junior," a custom obviously
wrong, since after the death of Francis Brown, Senior, Francis Brown,
Junior, becomes at once Francis Brown, and his wife, Mrs. Francis
Brown. Hence, while we have no such