lways be done till it is done, if it is
a proper thing to do.

3. MARRY IN YOUR OWN GRADE IN SOCIETY.--It is painful to be always
apologizing for any one. It is more painful to be apologized for.

4. DO NOT MARRY DOWNWARD.--It is hard enough to advance in the quality of
life without being loaded with clay heavier than your own. It will be
sufficiently difficult to keep your children up to your best level without
having to correct a bias in their blood.

5. DO NOT SELL YOURSELF.--It matters not whether the price be money or
position.

6. DO NOT THROW YOURSELF AWAY.--You will not receive too much, even if you
are paid full price.

7. SEEK THE ADVICE OF YOUR PARENTS.--Your parents are your best friends.
They will make more sacrifice for you than any other mortals. They are
elevated above selfishness concerning you. If they differ from you
concerning your choice, it is because they must.

8. DO NOT MARRY TO PLEASE ANY THIRD PARTY.--You must do the living and
enduring.

9. DO NOT MARRY TO SPITE ANYBODY.--It would add wretchedness to folly.

10. DO NOT MARRY BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE MAY SEEK THE SAME HAND.--One glove
may not fit all hands equally well.

11. DO NOT MARRY TO GET RID OF ANYBODY.--The coward who shot himself to
escape from being drafted was insane.

12. DO NOT MARRY MERELY FOR THE IMPULSE OF LOVE.--Love is a principle as
well as an emotion. So far as it is a sentiment it is a blind guide. It
does not wait to test the presence of exalted character in its object
before breaking out into a flame. Shavings make a hot fire, but hard coal
is better for the Winter.

13. DO NOT MARRY WITHOUT LOVE.--A body without a soul soon becomes
offensive.

14. TEST CAREFULLY THE EFFECT OF PROTRACTED ASSOCIATION.--If familiarity
breeds contempt before marriage it will afterward.

15. TEST CAREFULLY THE EFFECT OF PROTRACTED SEPARATION.--True love will
defy both time and space.

16. CONSIDER CAREFULLY the right of your children under the laws of
heredity. It is doubtful whether you have a right to increase the number of
invalids and cripples.

17. DO NOT MARRY SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU HAVE PROMISED TO DO SO.--If a seam
opens between you now it will widen into {176} a gulf. It is less offensive
to retract a mistaken promise than to perjure your soul before the altar.
Your intended spouse has a right to absolute integrity.

[Illustration: GOING TO BE MARRIED.]

18. MARRY CHARACTER.--It is not so much what one has as what one