es away the old furniture.
9. START FROM WHERE YOUR PARENTS STARTED RATHER THAN FROM WHERE THEY NOW
ARE.--Hollow and showy boarding often furnishes the too strong temptation,
while the quietness of a humble home would cement the hearts beyond risk.
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10. AVOID DEBT.--Spend your own money, but earn it first, then it will not
be necessary to blame any one for spending other people's.
11. DO NOT BOTH GET ANGRY AT THE SAME TIME.--Remember, it takes two to
quarrel.
12. DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF EVER TO COME TO AN OPEN RUPTURE.--Things unsaid
need less repentance.
13. STUDY TO CONFORM YOUR TASTES AND HABITS TO THE TASTES AND HABITS OF
YOUR COMPANION.--If two walk together, they must agree.
* * * * *
How to Be a Good Wife.
1. REVERENCE YOUR HUSBAND.--He sustains by God's order a position of
dignity as head of a family, head of the woman. Any breaking down of this
order indicates a mistake in the union, or a digression from duty.
2. LOVE HIM.--A wife loves as naturally as the sun shines. Love is your
best weapon. You conquered him with that in the first place. You can
reconquer by the same means.
3. DO NOT CONCEAL YOUR LOVE FROM HIM.--If he is crowded with care, and too
busy to seem to heed your love, you need to give all the greater attention
to securing his knowledge of your love. If you intermit he will settle down
into a hard, cold life with increased rapidity. Your example will keep the
light on his conviction. The more he neglects the fire on the hearth, the
more carefully must you feed and guard it. It must not be allowed to go
out. Once out you must sit ever in darkness and in the cold.
4. CULTIVATE THE MODESTY AND DELICACY OF YOUR YOUTH.--The relations and
familiarity of wedded life may seem to tone down the sensitive and retiring
instincts of girlhood, but nothing can compensate for the loss of these.
However, much men may admire the public performance of gifted women, they
do not desire that boldness and dash in a wife. The holy blush of a
maiden's modesty is more powerful in hallowing and governing a home than
the heaviest armament that ever a warrior bore.
5. CULTIVATE PERSONAL ATTRACTIVENESS.--This means the storing of your mind
with a knowledge of passing events, and with a good idea of the world's
general advance. If you read nothing, and make no effort to make yourself
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