till marked off from each other in
(though both forming a part of) our present marriage service. The
first part of the service is held outside the chancel gates, and
corresponds to the old service of _Betrothal_. Here, too, the actual
ceremony of "mutual consent" now takes place--that part of {112} the
ceremony which would be equally valid in a Registry Office. Then
follows the second part of the service, in which the Church gives her
blessing upon the marriage. And because this part is, properly
speaking, part of the Eucharistic Office, the Bride and Bridegroom now
go to the Altar with the Priest, and there receive the Church's
Benediction, and--ideally--their first Communion after marriage. So
does the Church provide grace for her children that they may "perform
the vows they have made unto the King". The late hour for modern
weddings, and the consequent postponement[6] of Communion, has obscured
much of the meaning of the service; but a nine o'clock wedding, in
which the married couple receive the Holy Communion, followed by the
wedding breakfast, is, happily, becoming more common, and is restoring
to us one of the best of old English customs. It is easy enough to
slight old religious forms and ceremonies; but is anyone one atom
better, or happier for having neglected them?

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(III) WHOM IS IT FOR?

Marriage is for three classes:--

(1) The unmarried--i.e. those who have never been married, or whose
marriage is (legally) dissolved by death.

(2) The non-related--i.e. either by consanguinity (by blood), or
affinity (by marriage).

(3) The full-aged.

(1) _The Unmarried_.

Obviously, marriage is only for the unmarried. But, is not this very
hard upon those whose marriage has been a mistake, and who have been
divorced by the State? And, above all, is it not very hard upon the
innocent party, who has been granted a divorce? It is very hard, so
hard, so terribly hard, that only those who have to deal personally,
and practically, with concrete cases, can guess how hard--hard enough
often on the guilty party, and harder still on the innocent. "God
knows" it is hard, and will make it as easy as God Himself can make it,
if only self-surrender is placed before self-indulgence. But the
alternative is still harder. We sometimes forget that legislation for
the individual may bear even harder {114} on the masses, than
legislation for the masses may bear upon the individual. And, after
all, th