spontaneous it seems to be.

Here is where the mother's work in the early training of her sons comes
in. Taught from childhood, by example and precept, the observances that
make for good manners, the young man wears them as easily and as
unconsciously as he does his clothes.

Politeness an Armor.--There is no better armor against rudeness and
discourtesy than politeness. The individual is impervious to slights and
snubs who can meet them with the courtesy which at once puts the common
person in his proper place as the inferior.

A woman is shocked and repelled by disagreeable manners in a man,
manifested in discourtesy toward her, by an awkward manner, coarse speech,
incivility, neglect of the little attentions she expects of a man and
which men of breeding render as a matter of course. A woman is more likely
to fall in love with a homely man of pleasing address than with an Adonis
so clad in self-complacency that he thinks politeness unnecessary, or one
who does not know its forms.

THE ETIQUETTE OF THE HAT.

The first rule a man should observe in regard to his hat is never to wear
it in the presence of women, save in the open. If mothers would take the
trouble to train their small sons to rigid observance of the rule of
removing their head covering the moment they enter the house there would,
be fewer adults guilty of this particular discourtesy, which is at once
the greatest and the most common. One occasionally sees a man wearing his
hat and preceding a woman down the aisle of a theatre.

The expression, "tipping the hat," is a vulgarism. A man doesn't "tip" his
hat, he raises it quite off his head.

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The Coachman's Salute.--The semi-military salute--raising the hand to the
hat as if to lift it, but merely approaching the forefinger to the
brim--is a discourtesy to a woman. Such a salute would bring a reproof in
military circles; it is objectionable among men. Actually it is the manner
in which a man-servant acknowledges an order from his master or mistress,
and is not inaptly called "the coachman's salute."

A man wears his hat on the street, on the deck of the steamboat, in a
picture-gallery or promenade concert-room. He removes it in a theatre, the
opera-house, and the parlors of a hotel.

When to Raise the Hat.--Men raise their hats to each other on the street.
They extend the same courtesy to all members of their family, of both
sexes. A well-bred man raises his hat t