by note or verbally is expected.

A letter expressive of sympathy in a friend's bereavement should be sent
immediately upon learning of a death.

During an illness, make inquiries at the door, leaving a card with "To
inquire" written upon it. This apprises a friend of your interest in her
troubles, yet makes no claim upon her time.

Men wear mourning bands on their hats, not on the coat sleeve. Borders on
mourning stationery and cards should be narrow.

Invitations to receptions, weddings, and general entertainments, excepting
dancing parties, balls and cotillions, are sent to people in mourning. A
response on black bordered stationery sufficiently indicates the reason
for non-acceptance.

Remember--

That the typewriter does not figure in social correspondence.

A neat, well written letter or note is a credit to the writer, and a
compliment to her correspondent.

Avoid "fancy" or bizarre stationery. A good quality of white or cream
paper, in several sizes, is indicative of refined taste.

The forms of address, under the head of "Letter forms" may be profitably
studied.

Abbreviations are incorrect. Write out the name of the state on your
envelope; otherwise it may go astray.

[MANNERS AND SOCIAL CUSTOMS 789]

To keep a dictionary on one's desk is a wise precaution unless one is sure
of herself in regard to spelling.

Answer all notes of invitation promptly, and unconditionally; and all
friendly letters within a reasonable time.

If you never say an unkind or hateful thing in a letter, you will never
fear you may be some day condemned by your written evidence.

Don't keep old letters; it is unwise.

Avoid discussions on any subject on which people feel strongly, like
politics and religion. Do not hold an argument in society.

Remember that good manners are made up of petty sacrifices, gracefully
made.

A kind "no" is often more agreeable than a rough "yes." An assent, given
grudgingly, is always ungracious.

Take note of this quotation: "Life is like a mirror. It reflects the face
you bring to it. Look out lovingly upon the world and the world will look
lovingly in upon you."

[790 MOTHERS' REMEDIES]

BEAUTY AND THE TOILET

INCLUDING MANICURING, CARE OF THE COMPLEXION,
TEETH, EYES, FEET, Etc.

"The one thing that woman prizes most is her beauty. Though she have none,
she yet persuadeth herself that she possesses some charm upon which men's
eyes rest admiringly."--Johnson.

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