It is the privilege of a woman to bow first. She may have reasons why
she should not wish to continue an acquaintance, and a man should never
take the initiative. Abroad, in many countries, the man bows first. When
old friends meet, however, the bowing is simultaneous.
A man lifts his hat in acknowledgment of any salutation made to the
woman with whom he is walking. It is his place, on such an occasion, to
bow to a man friend, whether the latter enjoys or does not have the
pleasure of the acquaintance of the woman. A man's failure to do this
signifies that the woman does not wish to know him, or that her
companion does not wish her to know the other man.
Hotel corridors and halls may be classed as semi-public places. A man
meeting a woman in one of these, where by custom he is permitted to
keep on his hat, must step aside and let her pass, raising his hat as he
does so. This does not apply to theater corridors, theater or hotel
lobbies, or offices. In such houses as the Waldorf in New York, where
the hall is utilized as a general sitting room by both sexes, it is not
good form for a man to keep on his hat. In London, however, the rule is
not as strict.
Men in this country do not lift their hats to one another, except when
they are introduced in the open or a public place. Civility is never
wasted, and it is proper, as well as an act of reverence, to thus salute
a clergyman or a venerable and distinguished gentleman.
A man always lifts his hat when offering a woman a service, such as
picking up or restoring to her a dropped pocket handkerchief or other
article, or when passing a fare in a public conveyance, or when
rendering any trifling assistance. Should she be with a male escort, the
latter should raise his hat and thank the person who has rendered the
service. This bit of politeness is under no circumstances the prelude to
an acquaintance with an unescorted woman, and no gentleman would take
advantage of it. A man always raises his hat and remains uncovered when
talking to a woman.
It is not good form to stop a woman on the street, even if the exchange
of a few commonplace remarks be the excuse. A man never joins a woman on
a thoroughfare unless she be one from whose friendship he is sure that
he can claim this privilege.
A gentleman always assists a woman in and out of a carriage or a public
conveyance. He opens the door of the vehicle for her, helps her in by a
deft motion of the right arm, and with his
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