us: "Mr. William Benham Thorne and Miss
Eleanore Taylor, married on Thursday, November the seventh, eighteen
hundred and ----, New York." Another card can also be inclosed, on
which is the new address of the married couple, as well as their day at
home. If it is a church wedding, and there are neither guardians nor
parents, you can use the form, "You are invited to be present at the
wedding of ----," etc.

A too rigid economy should not be observed in the sending of wedding
invitations, and the prospective bridegroom should see that this is
carried out. In case there are several members of a family, it is good
form to inclose an invitation to each; thus, Mr. and Mrs. Algernon
Smith, the Misses Smith, and Messrs. Smith making three smaller
envelopes inclosed in the larger one addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Algernon
Smith.

As I have advised in the chapter on Cards, your pasteboard should be
left at the house of those in whose name the invitations are issued,
even if you are asked only to the church. If to the reception, you owe
two visits of "digestion"--one to the bride's parents and one to the
happy pair.

All the expenses pertaining to a wedding are borne by the bride's
parents. The bridegroom, however, pays the clergyman's fee and provides
his own carriage, cab, or hansom from his rooms to the church. This
vehicle is also sent to the house of the best man.

All expenses after the marriage are, of course, defrayed by the
bridegroom. It has been strict etiquette for the bride and bridegroom
not to use the family carriage, which usually takes them from the
church, to fetch them to the railroad station, but one provided by the
bridegroom. It is frequently a matter of courtesy for the bride's
parents to offer this for the occasion.

_The bridegroom_ should, as soon as the wedding day is appointed, choose
his best man and his ushers. The vogue is to ask his nearest unmarried
male relative or his most intimate bachelor friend to serve in the
capacity of best man. More recently a number of very fashionable New
Yorkers have had married men take that position, and thus the innovation
has sanction through the action of the "smart set." A married best man
is said to be an English fad, but I find that it could be more correctly
termed an Anglo-Indian mode, as this new idea is much more popular in
Calcutta and Bombay than in London.

In the selection of ushers, a man asks usually some few of his intimates
or club friends, and t