Can see her beauty in.--John Tobin.

"Of all the actions of a man's life, his marriage does
least concern other people," says Selden, "yet, of all actions of our
life, it is most meddled with by other people." In fact, if people would
take home their attention thus so liberally bestowed abroad, it would
enable them to make matches of their own far better than those which now
burden the records of the churches and the courts. If a young man and a
young woman can be left alone three or four years, to wear into the new
relations they have assumed, there is little chance of their being
unhappily married. An instinct of the strongest character brought them
together, and is likely to hold them by its own force. Man is a creature
of habit. Strip him of his home after he has been for four years
habituated to it, and he will be unhappy, no matter how unpeaceful that
home may have been. Therefore, if possible, have your wife and yourself
in a house by yourselves for the first four years of your married life.
As a general thing this is possible, and I think a firm will, in most
cases, greatly aids the possibility of such a course. One thing, at
least, is clear,

NO HUSBAND IS DOING RIGHT

to admit to his home as a sharer of its comforts any other man. It is a
common sentiment among any two homeless young men that the first one who
marries shall take the other to live with him. Nothing is more absurd or
out of place. I do not think there could be so dangerous a foe to the
peace of the wife, in case the young man do not think his friend has
married wisely,--and he must think so, or he would himself have married
her if he could have done so. His criticisms will estrange the husband's
heart and cool his love. On the other hand, if he has admired the lady,
then the situation is all the more atrocious.

THOSE HORRIBLE EVENTS IN LIFE,

where a man's home is transformed suddenly into what has been bitterly
but justly termed a "hell on earth," are more than half the time
traceable to the carelessness of the husband in not throwing around his
wife those barriers which shall ever keep her from temptation. The wife
of pure instincts will generally object to the admission of another man
to her home as a member of it. How often her womanly and honorable
objection is overruled by the husband as the mark of an inhospitable
nature. Live alone. Let no one see your meannesses, for the third party
will remember and recite those meanne