by a habit of companionableness that the happiness
of the home can be made so satisfying that there can arise no question
of its permanence.

To keep one's self up to one's best standard of speech and conduct is
necessary, for only thus can the family standard be kept high.

An arbitrary disposition in the home ruins the comfort of all.
Companionship and mutual authority and helpfulness are the only
foundations for a happy home.

_General Rules of Conduct_

Seek the companionship of the refined and the gentle-mannered if you
would be the same. Move in that society in whose ways you are versed
and whose rules you practice, if you would be appreciated or met with
like courtesy.

Never fail to say kind words to those in distress whom you meet. The
kindness, however, must be genuine, and come from the heart, never in
stereotyped and hollow phrases.

The courtesy which offers attentions should be met with graciousness
in receiving them. Surprise is a sign that one rates one's self lower
than did the person who showed the courtesy. Attentions should be
warmly accepted, and the gratitude expressed should be of the sort
which does not forget.

A woman, when in the presence of the men of the family, should expect
that doors will be opened for her, that she will pass through them
first, that packages will be carried, and errands run. She should not,
however, let these little attentions be paid her by her father or an
elderly relative.

Enter a room filled with people in a dignified manner and with a
slight bow to the general company. "We all do stamp our value on
ourselves" is true enough, and our private stamp is never more
conspicuous than when we confront a roomful of people. If we show
modesty but intense self-respect in our bearing, there is no one who
will not raise his personal estimate of us no matter what it was.

The head should be well up, the body squarely erect, the chest out.
Self-consciousness at such a time is a mistake, if natural, and shows
the actual littleness which one is trying by an upright bearing to
conceal. One should train one's self until the meeting of people, no
matter who they may be, whether singly or in large numbers, is a
matter of no particular concern as to deportment.

Never enter a room noisily, nor fail to close a door after you,
without slamming.

Never take another's seat unless you give it up upon his return.

Dignified postures in sitting are marks of respect to yourse