person inside
of a month. The members of the family do not receive them, however,
unless they wish to do so.

_Social Calls of Men_

A man never carries or leaves the cards of other men, nor can he leave
cards for any of the women of his family.

A gentleman who calls on a lady's afternoon at home leaves in the card
tray, on entering the house, a card for his hostess and one for his
host. The card for his host must be left, even if that gentleman does
not appear in the drawing-room, provided the caller is acquainted with
him, and providing he is calling in acknowledgment of some hospitality
recently received.

If there is a host, hostess, and young lady daughter in the house,
and the caller is a friend of the latter, he leaves three cards.

The man who is making his first or last call for the season on the
regular afternoon at home, leaves one card for each of the ladies, and
each one of the men of the household whose acquaintance he can claim.

When a man calls on a lady's day at home, and his call has no
reference to any social debts, he leaves only one card in the tray. If
he is somewhat intimate in the house where the call is paid, he leaves
no card at all.

A man does not call upon a woman unless she invites him, or some
member of her family does, or he goes with a mutual friend who has
made sure of his welcome. A woman may say to a man, "Mother and I are
usually at home Fridays, and would like to have you call," or some
other form of invitation which denotes cordiality.

A man who desires to call in particular upon one lady, in a family
where there are several, hands his card to the servant with the words,
"Please give this to Miss Curley, and I would like to see all the
other ladies also." The ladies appear and greet him, withdrawing that
he may call upon the one he especially wished to see.

If calling upon a guest in a home, you always ask for the hostess
also.

A man retains his hat, gloves, and walking stick in hand during a
formal call, though he may have left his overcoat in the hall.

_First Calls_

In America it is the usual custom for residents of the city or town to
call first upon newcomers. Washington is a well-known exception to
this rule, as strangers there call first upon government officials and
their families. In most European cities newcomers call first upon
those already in residence. The residents, from the officials down,
return their cards, and the visitor or newcomer re