ative.

The guest should decide with her hostess, early in her stay, upon the
date of her departure, if that has not been already settled in the
form of the invitation, and should then abide rigidly by it, allowing
nothing but the most earnest importunity on the part of her hostess
personally, and for clearly shown and newly arising reasons, to detain
her longer.

The guest should be pleased and well entertained with everything that
is done for her amusement, or should appear to be so. If she cannot
give herself up to the enjoyment of the sort of entertainment which
her host and hostess provide, she should not accept the invitation to
visit them.

The guest should be punctual at meals and conform in every particular
to the ways of the household. She should not arrive in the living-room
or drawing-room at hours when there will be none to entertain her, and
when it would embarrass her hostess to know that she was unattended.
To sit up after the family has gone to bed, to lie in bed after the
entire family have risen, to be late at meals, to be writing an
important letter or doing some mending when the carriage is at the
door for a drive, or wish to go to drive when the carriage has been
dismissed, to be too tired to attend the dinner or reception given in
one's honor, to fail to keep appointments for the stroll or some sport
because one wants to do something else,--these things show a total
lack of consideration on the part of the guest, and make it
impossible to enjoy her stay or wish for her return.

At times which seem appropriate it is well to retire to one's room and
leave the family by themselves. It is not necessary for the family
life and comfort to be sacrificed constantly to the guest. Hospitality
would be more generously shown if it did not make so many unnecessary
demands upon the time and comfort of the members of the family.

The guest should never take sides in any family discussion, and if
anything unpleasant occurs, she should ignore it entirely, and not
seem to know anything about it or take any interest in it.

It is an unpardonable breach of loyalty to one's hosts to retail any
information one may have acquired on a visit, or discuss their
characteristics and management with any one.

A guest need not attend religious services, or be present at the calls
of commonplace people, or enter into local philanthropies, unless he
wishes to do so. True hospitality relieves him from all sense of
obligat