which
comes from the false idea that he is always having his own way.

If we want an open brain and a good, freely working nervous system, we
must respect our own freedom and the freedom of other people,--for only
as individuals stand alone can they really influence one another to any
good end.

It is curious to see how the men of habitual resistance pride
themselves on being in bondage to no one, not knowing that the fear of
such bondage is what makes them resist, and the fear of being
influenced by another is one of the most painful forms of bondage in
which a man can be.

The men who are slaves to this fear do not stop even to consider the
question. They resist and refuse a request at once, for fear that
pausing for consideration would open them to the danger of appearing to
yield to the will of another.

When we are quite as willing to yield to another as to refuse him, then
we are free, and can give any question that is placed before us
intelligent consideration, and decide according to our best judgment.
No amount of willfulness can force a man to any action or attitude of
mind if he is willing to yield to the willful pressure if it seems to
him best.

The worse bondage of man to man is the bondage of fear.

CHAPTER XXII

_How to Sew Easily_

IT is a common saying that we should let our heads save our heels, but
few of us know the depth of it or the freedom and health that can come
from obedience to it.

For one thing we get into ruts. If a woman grows tired sewing she takes
it for granted that she must always be tired. Sometimes she frets and
complains, which only adds to her fatigue.

Sometimes she goes on living in a dogged state of overtiredness until
there comes a "last straw" which brings on some organic disease, and
still another "straw" which kills her altogether.

We, none of us, seem to realize that our heads can save not only our
heels, but our hearts, and our lungs, our spines and our brains--indeed
our whole nervous systems.

Men and women sometimes seem to prefer to go on working--chronically
tired--getting no joy from life whatever, rather than to take the
trouble to think enough to gain the habit of working restfully.

Sometimes, to be sure, they are so tired that the little extra exertion
of the brain required to learn to get rid of the fatigue seems too much
for them.

It seems easier to work in a rut of strain and discomfort than to make
the effort to get out of the r