r in ours. If he is standing in our light and refuses to move,
we can move out of his shadow, even though we may have to give up our
most cherished desire in order to do so.

If he is standing in his own light, and refuses to move, we can suggest
or advise and do whatever in us lies to make the common sense of our
opinion clear; but if he still persists in standing in his own light,
it is his business, not ours.

It requires the cultivation of a strong will to put a request before a
friend which we know will be resisted, and to yield to that resistance
so that it meets no antagonism in us. But when it is done, and done
thoroughly, consistently, and intelligently, the other man's resistance
reacts back upon himself, and he finds himself out as he never could in
any other way. Having found himself out, unless his mulishness is
almost past sanity, he begins to reject his habit of resistance of his
own accord.

In dealing with the contrary minded, the "contrary method" works so
long as it is not discovered; and the danger of its being discovered is
always imminent. The upright, direct method is according to the
honorable laws of human intercourse, and brings always better results
in the end, even though there may be some immediate failures in the
process.

To adjust ourselves rightly to another nature and go with it to a good
end, along the lines of least resistance, is of course the best means
of a real acquaintance, but to allow ourselves to manage a fellow-being
is an indignity to the man and worse than an indignity to the mind who
is willing to do the managing.

Our humanity is in our freedom. Our freedom is in our humanity. When
one, man tries to manage another, he is putting that other in the
attitude of a beast. The man who is allowing himself to be managed is
classing himself with the beasts.

Although this is a fact so evident on the base of it that it needs
neither explanation nor enlargement, there is hardly a day passes that
some one does not say to some one, "You cannot manage me in that way,"
and the answer should be, "Why should you want to be managed in any
way; and why should I want to insult you by trying to manage you at
all?"

The girl and her father might have been intelligent friends by this
time, if the practice of the "contrary method" had not tainted the girl
with habitual hypocrisy, and cultivated in the father the warped mind
which results from the habit of resistance, and blind weakness