What the remedy is I need not say--we both of
us have it in our hands. I am sure you will agree with me that we must come
to some understanding by which the future shall be governed. Neither you
nor I can bear a divided allegiance. Believe me that I write more in sorrow
than in anger. You have made me very unhappy, and perhaps thoughtlessly.
But it will take much to reassure me of your unaltered regard.

Yours truly,
EMMA.

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[Illustration: MODESTY.
ACT NATURAL AND SPEAK WELL OF ALL PEOPLE.]

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Hints and Helps on Good Behavior at all Times and at all Places.

[Illustration: THE HUMAN FACE, LIKE A FLOWER, SPEAKS FOR ITSELF.]

1. It takes acquaintance to found a noble esteem, but politeness prepares
the way. Indeed, as Montaigne says, Courtesy begets esteem at sight.
Urbanity is half of affability, and affability is a charm worth possessing.

2. A pleasing demeanor is often the scales by which the pagan weighs the
Christian. It is not virtue, but virtue inspires it. There are
circumstances in which it takes a great and strong soul to pass under the
little yoke of courtesy, but it is a passport to a greater soul standard.

3. Matthew Arnold says, "Conduct is three-fourths of character," and
Christian benignity draws the line for conduct. A high sense of rectitude,
a lowly soul, with a pure and kind {50} heart are elements of nobility
which will work out in the life of a human being at home--everywhere.
"Private refinement makes public gentility."

4. If you would conciliate the favor of men, rule your resentment. Remember
that if you permit revenge or malice to occupy your soul, you are ruined.

5. Cultivate a happy temper; banish the blues; a cheerful saguine spirit
begets cheer and hope.

6. Be trustworthy and be trustful.

7. Do not place a light estimate upon the arts of good reading and good
expression; they will yield perpetual interest.

8. Study to keep versed in world events as well as in local occurrences,
but abhor gossip, and above all scandal.

9. Banish a self-conscience spirit--the source of much awkwardness--with a
constant aim to make others happy. Remember that it is incumbent upon
gentlemen and ladies alike to be neat in habits.

10. The following is said to be a correct posture for walking. Head
erect--not too rigid--chin in, shoulders back. Permit no unnecessary