red
love-page with memory's most hideous and imperishable visages. Cannot
many now unhappy remember them as the beginning of that alienation
which embittered your subsequent affectional cup, spoiled your lives?
With what inherent repulsion do you look back upon them? Their memory
is horrid, and effect on love most destructive."

5. FATAL CONDITIONS.--What are all lovers' "spats" but disappointment
in its very worst form? They necessarily and always produce all its
terrible consequences. The finer feelings and sensibilities will soon
become destroyed and nothing but hatred will remain.

6. EXTREME SORROW.--After a serious "spat" there generally follows a
period of tender sorrow, and a feeling of humiliation and submission.
Mutual promises are consequently made that such a condition of things
shall never happen again, etc. But be sure and remember, that every
subsequent difficulty will require stronger efforts to repair the
breach. Let it be understood that these compromises are dangerous, and
every new difficulty increases their fatality. Even the strongest will
endure but few, nor survive many.

7. DISTRUST AND WANT OF CONFIDENCE.--Most difficulties arise from
distrust or lack of confidence or common-sense. When two lovers eye
each other like two curs, each watching, lest the other should gain
some new advantage, then this shows a lack of common-sense, and the
young couple should get sensible or separate.

8. JEALOUSY.--When one of the lovers, once so tender, now all at
once so cold and hardened; once so coy and familiar now suddenly
so reserved, distant, hard and austere, is always a sure case of
jealousy. A jealous person is first talkative, very affectionate, and
then all at once changes and becomes cold, reserved and repulsive,
apparently without cause. If a person is jealous before marriage, this
characteristic will be increased rather than diminished by marriage.

9. CONFESSION.--If you make up by confession, the confessor feels
mean and disgraced; or if both confess and forgive, both feel humbled;
since forgiveness implies inferiority and pity; from which whatever
is manly and womanly shrinks. Still even this is better than continued
"spats."

10. PREVENTION.--If you can get along well in your courtship you will
invariably make a happy couple if you should unite your destinies in
marriage. Learn not to give nor take offence. You must remember that
all humanity is imperfect at best. We all have our faults,