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and go to heaven for them. They may give wholesome advice merely,
but should leave the entire decision to the unbiased judgment of the
parties themselves, who mainly are to experience the consequences of
their choice. Besides, such is human nature, that to oppose lovers, or
to speak against the person beloved, only increases their desire and
determination to marry.

16. RUN-AWAY MATCHES.--Many a run-away match would never have taken
place but for opposition or interference. Parents are mostly to be
blamed for these elopements. Their children marry partly out of
sprite and to be contrary. Their very natures tell them that
this interference is unjust--as it really is--and this excites
combativeness, firmness, and self-esteem, in combination with the
social faculties, to powerful and even blind resistance--which turmoil
of the faculties hastens the match. Let the affections of a daughter
be once slightly enlisted in your favor, and then let the "old folks"
start an opposition, and you may feel sure of your prize. If she did
not love you before, she will now, that you are persecuted.

17. DISINHERITANCE.--Never disinherit, or threaten to disinherit, a
child for marrying against your will. If you wish a daughter not to
marry a certain man, oppose her, and she will be sure to marry him; so
also in reference to a son.

18. PROPER TRAINING.--The secret is, however, all in a nutshell. Let
the father properly train his daughter, and she will bring her first
love-letter to him, and give him an opportunity to cherish a suitable
affection, and to nip an improper one in the germ, before it has time
to do any harm.

19. THE FATAL MISTAKES OF PARENTS.--_There is, however one way of
effectually preventing an improper match, and that is, not to allow
your children to associate with any whom you are unwilling they should
marry. How cruel as well at unjust to allow a daughter to associate
with a young man till the affections of both are riveted, and then
forbid her marrying him. Forbid all association, or consent cheerfully
to the marriage._

20. AN INTEMPERATE LOVER.--Do not flatter yourselves young women, that
you can wean even an occasional wine drinker from his cups by love and
persuasion. Ardent spirit at first, kindles up the fires of love into
the fierce flames of burning licentiousness, which burn out every
element of love and destroy every vestige of pure affection. It
over-excites the passions, and thereby finally de