is an outward semblance
of a more spiritual conception of marriage than that of polygamy, it
is the highest ideal yet realized for the many, and does duty in our
present day and age, as consistent with our superior civilization.
Monogamy at least pretends to be a marriage by mutual consent; and
even in the pretense there is the germ of a hope; but it would be
folly to deny that underneath this appearance of marriage by mutual
consent we see the remnants of the traditional idea of the right by
purchase, and therefore we have the jealousy that arises by virtue of
our property rights.
The right by purchase assuredly underlies our present-day marriage
system, although it is disguised as economic necessity; as a religious
sacrament; and as a suitable or a brilliant "catch"--a type of
marriage by capture which forms the ideal of our own upper-class women
and which the housemaid copies in her limited way.
Viewed from the surface evidence, the average woman of today is, as
Kipling says, far "more deadly than the male." She is more
unscrupulous in her methods; more unreasonable in her demands; more
devoid of sentiment or sympathy; more fickle in her desires and more
nagging in her complaints. But, when all is said and done, we must
admit that woman is only expressing her inheritance. When she becomes
balanced, the sexes will meet on common ground.
Woman's demand for better physical environment; for more comfort, and
more justice; presages, after all, a higher and a more satisfactory
idea of the marriage relationship. Underneath this materialistic
demand, there is the silent voice of the soul calling for a more
ideal marriage relation. It is the materialistic expression of a
spiritual urge and will in time rise to higher ground. It is a demand
for a better state than that which our grandmothers enjoyed, or
endured.
We have seen in the history of marriage, that the estimate of sexual
immorality has been based, all too frequently, upon woman's disregard
for the rights of her husband in her person.
For centuries the burden of sustaining a sexual moral standard has
rested almost wholly upon the shoulders of the women; and it is
therefore natural that the present-day defiant attitude of many women
toward the traditional standard should be viewed with alarm; and there
is more in this thought of alarm than the mere anxiety on the part of
man to hold woman to her appointed task of guardian of marital
morality.
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