SE OUR WEALTH WHEN WE LESSEN OUR DESIRES.]

1972. Going to the Funeral.

In going to the Funeral the nearest relatives of the deceased occupy
the carriages nearest the hearse. The same order prevails in
returning. Only the relatives and most intimate friends of the family
should return to the house after the funeral; and their visit should
be as short as possible.

1973. Walking Funerals.

In Walking Funerals it is considered a mark of respect for friends to
become pall-bearers. In the funerals of young persons, the pall should
be borne by their companions, wearing white gloves. It is a pretty and
an affecting sight to see the pall over the coffin of a young lady
borne by six of her female friends. Flowers may be placed, upon the
coffin, and strewed in and over the grave.

1974. Societies.

As funerals in England, when conducted in ths ordinary way, with the
usual display of hearse, mourning carriages, and costly mourning, are
attended with considerable expense, societies have been formed in many
parishes with the view of reducing the outlay resorted to on these
occasions, and at a time perhaps when it would be better in many cases
to observe the strictest economy. The members of these societies
agree among themselves to do all that is possible to reduce
expenditure at funerals, and to render the accompaniments of the sad
ceremony as inexpensive as possible. Instead of going into mourning,
many now content themselves with wearing a simple band of cloth round
the left arm. This is done by women as well as by men.

1975. Visits of Condolence.

Visits of condolence after funerals should be paid by relatives within
from a week to a fortnight; by friends within the second week of the
fortnight; friends of less intimacy should make enquiries and leave
cards.

1976. Correspondence.

Correspondence with families in mourning should be upon black-edged
paper, if from members of the family; or upon the ordinary notepaper,
but sealed with black, if from friends.

1977. Ceremonies.

All ceremonies are in themselves superficial things; yet a man of the
world should know them. They are the outworks of manners and decency,
which would be too often broken in upon, if it were not for that
defence which keeps the enemy at a proper distance. It is for that
reason we always treat fools and coxcombs with great ceremony, true
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