f the
Son;' then to the middle finger, adding, 'And of the Holy Ghost;'
finally, he left it as now, on the fourth finger, with the closing
word, 'Amen.'"
_The History and Poetry of Finger Rings_.

1981. The Art of being Agreeable.

The true art of being agreeble is to appear well pleased with all the
company, and rather to seem well entertained with them than to bring
entertainment to them. A man thus disposed, perhaps may not have much
learning, nor any wit; but if he has common sense and something
friendly in his behaviour, it conciliates men's minds more than the
brightest parts without this disposition; and when a man of such a
turn comes up to old age, he is almost sure to be treated with
respect. It is true, indeed, that we should not dissembie and flatter
in company; but a man may be very agreeable, strictly, consistent with
truth and sincerity, by a prudent silence where he cannot concur, and
a pleasing assent where he can. Now and then you meet a person so
exactly formed to please, that he will gain upon everyone that hears
or beholds him: this disposition is not merely the gift of nature, but
frequently the effect of much knowledge of the world, and a command
over the passions.

1982. Artificial Manners.

Artificial manners, and such as spring from good taste and refinement,
can never be mistaken, and differ as widely as gold and tinsel. How
captivating is gentleness of manner derived from true humility, and
how faint is every imitation! That suavity of manner which renders a
real gentlewoman courteous to all, and careful to avoid giving
offence, is often copied by those who merely subject themselves to
certain rules of etiquette: but very awkward is the copy. Warm
professions of regard are bestowed on those who do not expect them,
and the esteem which is due to merit appears to be lavished on every
one alike. And as true humility, blended with a right appreciation of
self-respect, gives a pleasing cast to the countenance, so from a
sincere and open disposition springs that artlessness of manner which
disarms all prejudice. Feeling, on the contrary, is ridiculous when
affected, and, even when real, should not be too openly manifested.
Let the manners arise from the mind, and let there be no disguise for
the genuine emotions of the heart.

1983. Hints upon Personal Manners.

It is sometimes objected to books upon etique