conception of sexual love, in its romantic aspects, appears in
European life. With the Celtic story of Tristram, as Gaston Paris
remarks, it finally appears in the Christian European world of
poetry as the chief point in human life, the great motive force
of conduct.
Romantic love failed, however, to penetrate the masses in Europe.
In the sixteenth century, or whenever it was that the ballad of
"Glasgerion" was written, we see it is assumed that a churl's
relation to his mistress is confined to the mere act of sexual
intercourse; he fails to kiss her on arriving or departing; it is
only the knight, the man of upper class, who would think of
offering that tender civility. And at the present day in, for
instance, the region between East Friesland and the Alps, Bloch
states (_Sexualleben unserer Zeit_, p. 29), following E.H. Meyer,
that the word "love" is unknown among the masses, and only its
coarse counterpart recognized.
On the other side of the world, in Japan, sexual love seems to be
in as great disrepute as it was in ancient Greece; thus Miss
Tsuda, a Japanese head-mistress, and herself a Christian, remarks
(as quoted by Mrs. Eraser in _World's Work and Play_, Dec.,
1906): "That word 'love' has been hitherto a word unknown among
our girls, in the foreign sense. Duty, submission,
kindness--these were the sentiments which a girl was expected to
bring to the husband who had been chosen for her--and many happy,
harmonious marriages were the result. Now, your dear sentimental
foreign women say to our girls: 'It is wicked to marry without
love; the obedience to parents in such a case is an outrage
against nature and Christianity. If you love a man you must
sacrifice everything to marry him.'"
When, however, love is fully developed it becomes an enormously
extended, highly complex emotion, and lust, even in the best
sense of that word, becomes merely a cooerdinated element among
many other elements. Herbert Spencer, in an interesting passage
of his _Principles of Psychology_ (Part IV, Ch. VIII), has
analyzed love into as many as nine distinct and important
elements: (1) the physical impulse of sex; (2) the feeling for
beauty; (3) affection; (4) admiration and respect; (5) love of
approbation; (6) self-esteem; (7) proprietary feeling; (8)
extended liberty of action fr
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