s progress. We'll risk our money on him."

When a young man brings to business a reasonable amount of ability and
energy, reinforced by the emotional balance which comes from the right
kind of home life, he is likely to surpass both his own expectations and
those of his employers. Business _wants_ him to succeed. Business
wonders, as a matter of fact, why more people do not succeed, with the
incentives for success so generally open to public view. It realizes,
just as you will realize when you analyze the situation, that the
incentives have been understood, but the ways and means have been
missing. This is a common mistake in human progress. We have all erred
in making someone else want something, thinking that the process of
arousing desire would insure intelligent action. Most humans realize
that they lack the ways and means, a realization which accounts for the
interest shown everywhere in better marriage relations and in the
methods for achieving them. The desire to succeed is not enough. Desire
has its place, however, once the ways and means are understood, because
strong desire sustains interest in the ways and means.

Does this seem an idle theory? Not to business, the instrument through
which most men and women work out their economic security. Business
says: you must show us harmony at home and mental growth before we will
believe that you are a safe candidate for promotion. Give us these along
with the ability you have always brought us, and we will make it worth
your while. We will increase your salaries. We will put you into jobs
where you may live in better neighborhoods, mingle with more capable
people in business and at home, give your children advantages you may
never have had, and provide you with all the creature comforts for
successful living, a base upon which you must build your own philosophy
of happiness, but without which no genuine happiness is probable.

Being composed of realists, business does not paint these rewards in
glowing colors. It merely says, without question or qualification, _the
happily married man will occupy a bigger position with us than the man
who is unhappy at home_.

_Ernest R. and Gladys H. Groves_

CHAPTER TWELVE

_The Case for Monogamy_

If we put off examining the case for monogamy until we had personal
questions about it, most of us would never get around to studying it.
For most people no more doubt that monogamy is the best possible program
than that