cient measure adequately to respond to the enduring
realities of love? The answer is with women. We must demand from the
fathers of our children, as we demand from ourselves, loyalty to the
well-being of the race; the discipline of our personal desires and
loves that we may maintain ourselves fit as the bearers and protectors
of those wider interests, which belong not to ourselves, not to this
generation alone, but to the life and the future history of our race.
Woman must again assert, as she did in the past, that she is the maker
of men. She must reclaim her right, held by the female from the
beginning of life, as the director of love's selective power. And more
even than this. Woman with man must be the framer of the law, and the
guide and director of all the relations of the sexes. But it is not
sufficient to do this by mere proclamation. Virile nations are not
made by theories or by the blast of the trumpet. They are reared in
the bonds of marriage, and what we incorporate in that bond will be
manifest in our children.
II.--_Divorce_
"The result of dissolving the formal stringency of the marriage
relationship, it is sometimes said, would be a tendency to an
immoral laxity. Those who make this statement overlook the fact
that laxity tends to reach a maximum as the result of
stringency, and that where the merely external authority of a
rigid marriage law prevails then the extreme excesses of licence
must flourish. It is also undoubtedly true, and for the same
reason, that any sudden removal of restraints necessarily
involves a reaction to the opposite extreme of licence. A slave
is not changed in a stroke into an autonomous free
man."--HAVELOCK ELLIS.
In putting forward a practical morality for marriage we have to
remember that we are not really uprooting traditional morality. There
is no necessity. Of its own decay the old morality has fallen in a
confusion of ruin. The ideal marriage is the union of one woman with
one man for life. This we have established. We have now to look at the
question from another side and ask, How far is this ideal monogamy
possible in practice? I think the answer must be that, as we stand at
present, it is possible to very few. For marriage is essentially a
state of bondage--there is no getting away from this--a state which
calls upon the individual to surrender his personal freedom in the
interests of the race and the stability of soci
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