I.
The Definition of Modesty--The Significance of Modesty--Difficulties in
the Way of Its Analysis--The Varying Phenomena of Modesty Among Different
Peoples and in Different Ages.
Modesty, which may be provisionally defined as an almost instinctive fear
prompting to concealment and usually centering around the sexual
processes, while common to both sexes is more peculiarly feminine, so that
it may almost be regarded as the chief secondary sexual character of women
on the psychical side. The woman who is lacking in this kind of fear is
lacking, also, in sexual attractiveness to the normal and average man. The
apparent exceptions seem to prove the rule, for it will generally be found
that the women who are, not immodest (for immodesty is more closely
related to modesty than mere negative absence of the sense of modesty),
but without that fear which implies the presence of a complex emotional
feminine organization to defend, only make a strong sexual appeal to men
who are themselves lacking in the complementary masculine qualities. As a
psychical secondary sexual character of the first rank, it is necessary,
before any psychology of sex can be arranged in order, to obtain a clear
view of modesty.
The immense importance of feminine modesty in creating masculine
passion must be fairly obvious. I may, however, quote the
observations of two writers who have shown evidence of insight
and knowledge regarding this matter.
Casanova describes how, when at Berne, he went to the baths, and
was, according to custom, attended by a young girl, whom he
selected from a group of bath attendants. She undressed him,
proceeded to undress herself, and then entered the bath with him,
and rubbed him thoroughly all over, the operation being performed
in the most serious manner and without a word being spoken. When
all was over, however, he perceived that the girl had expected
him to make advances, and he proceeds to describe and discuss his
own feelings of indifference under such circumstances. "Though
without gazing on the girl's figure, I had seen enough to
recognize that she had all that a man can desire to find in a
woman: a beautiful face, lively and well-formed eyes, a beautiful
mouth, with good teeth, a healthy complexion, well-developed
breasts, and everything in harmony. It is true that I had felt
that her hands could have been smoother, but I could o
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