ies will
be most agreeable to him. This may seem unnecessary, but, unfortunately,
it is not. Any man who will compare his youthful tastes and judgment in
regard to women with his mature inclinations will see the truth.

Second, he ought to know before he reaches the point of falling in love,
the disposition and character of those to whom his fancy turns. When
propinquity and mere physical attraction have aroused the emotions of a
young couple, the ardor of their excitement so obscures observation and
judgment that any careful analysis of each other's characteristics is
impossible. Even if such an analysis were possible, one could not be
intelligently made by a mere observation of behavior and conversation,
even under the most advantageous circumstances. As a general rule, young
people associate together in their "company clothes and company manners."
Every possible endeavor is made to show forth that which is considered to
be most desirable and to conceal, so far as possible, that which may be
undesirable. Even traits and tendencies which do manifest themselves do so
under disguise, as it were, and their full seriousness is not recognized.
In fact, many a young man and young woman have found the very
characteristics which appeared most charming in a lover or sweetheart the
ugly rock upon which marital happiness was wrecked.

"CHARMS" WHICH PROVE DEADLY

For example, many girls admire rather fast young men. But few wives find
happiness with drunken, gambling, unfaithful husbands. Many young women
experience a delightful thrill of interest in the young man who is
inclined to be somewhat authoritative. But few wives submit with pleasure
to the exactions of a domineering husband. Some young women find a gay,
careless irresponsibility charming in a lover but bitterly resent having
to shoulder all the burdens of financing and maintaining a home.

In a similar way, some men admire dimpled, pouting girls, but they
cordially detest whimpering, whining wives. Most men are flattered by an
air of helpless dependence in a sweetheart, but they soon grow tired of a
wife who cannot think and act for herself and who is, perhaps, an
imaginary or real invalid.

These characteristics in both men and women may be mere affectations and
mannerisms, assumed for the purpose of imagined allurement and charm. Or
they may be bedded deep in the character. Only a scientific knowledge of
human nature will reveal the truth.

KNOWLEDGE IN MARIT