restrained
in.

9. That I accustom them to bear disappointments and control.

10. That I suffer them not to be too much indulged in their infancy.

11. Nor at school.

12. Nor spoil them when they come home.

13. For that children generally extend their perverseness from the nurse
to the schoolmaster: from the schoolmaster to the parents:

14. And, in their next step, as a proper punishment for all, make their
ownselves unhappy.

15. That undutiful and perverse children make bad husbands and wives:
And, collaterally, bad masters and mistresses.

16. That, not being subject to be controlled early, they cannot, when
married, bear one another.

17. That the fault lying deep, and in the minds of each other, neither
will mend it.

18. Whence follow misunderstandings, quarrels, appeals, ineffectual
reconciliations, separations, elopements; or, at best, indifference;
perhaps, aversion.--Memorandum; A good image of unhappy wedlock, in the
words YAWNING HUSBAND, and VAPOURISH WIFE, when together: But separate,
both quite alive.

19. Few married persons behave as he likes. Let me ponder this with awe
and improvement.

20. Some gentlemen can compromise with their wives, for quietness sake;
but he can't. Indeed I believe that's true; I don't desire he should.

21. That love before marriage is absolutely necessary.

22. That there are fewer instances of men's than women's loving better
after marriage. But why so? I wish he had given his reasons for this! I
fancy they would not have been to the advantage of his own sex.

23. That a woman give her husband reason to think she prefers him before
all men. Well, to be sure this should be so.

24. That if she would overcome, it must be by sweetness and
complaisance; that is, by yielding, he means, no doubt.

25. Yet not such a slavish one neither, as should rather seem the effect
of her insensibility, than judgment or affection.

26. That the words COMMAND and OBEY shall be blotted out of the
Vocabulary. Very good!

27. That a man should desire nothing of his wife, but what is
significant, reasonable, just. To be sure, that is right.

28. But then, that she must not shew reluctance, uneasiness, or doubt,
to oblige him; and that too at half a word; and must not be bid twice to
do one thing. But may not there be some occasions, where this may be a
little dispensed with? But he says afterwards, indeed,

29. That this must be only while he took care to make her comp