XXII. THE DAY OF THE WEDDING
XXIII. CHRISTENINGS
XXIV. FUNERALS
XXV. THE COUNTRY HOUSE AND ITS HOSPITALITY
XXVI. THE HOUSE PARTY IN CAMP
XXVII. NOTES AND SHORTER LETTERS
XXVIII. LONGER LETTERS
XXIX. THE FUNDAMENTALS OF GOOD BEHAVIOR
XXX. CLUBS AND CLUB ETIQUETTE
XXXI. GAMES AND SPORTS
XXXII. ETIQUETTE IN BUSINESS AND POLITICS
XXXIII. DRESS
XXXIV. THE CLOTHES OF A GENTLEMAN
XXXV. THE KINDERGARTEN OF ETIQUETTE
XXXVI. EVERY-DAY MANNERS AT HOME
XXXVII. TRAVELING AT HOME AND ABROAD
XXXVIII. THE GROWTH OF GOOD TASTE IN AMERICA

PHOTOGRAPHIC ILLUSTRATIONS

A BRIDE'S BOUQUET
A GEM OF A HOUSE
THE PERSONALITY OF A HOUSE
CONSIDERATION FOR SERVANTS
THE AFTERNOON TEA-TABLE
A FORMAL DINNER
DETAIL OF PLACE AT A FORMAL DINNER
A DINNER SERVICE WITHOUT SILVER
THE MOST ELABORATE DINNER DANCE EVER GIVEN IN NEW YORK
A CHURCH WEDDING
A HOUSE WEDDING
THE IDEAL GUEST ROOM
A BREAKFAST TRAY
THE CHILD AT TABLE

INTRODUCTION

MANNERS AND MORALS

By

Richard Duffy

Many who scoff at a book of etiquette would be shocked to hear the least
expression of levity touching the Ten Commandments. But the Commandments
do not always prevent such virtuous scoffers from dealings with their
neighbor of which no gentleman could be capable and retain his claim to
the title. Though it may require ingenuity to reconcile their actions with
the Decalogue--the ingenuity is always forthcoming. There is no intention
in this remark to intimate that there is any higher rule of life than the
Ten Commandments; only it is illuminating as showing the relationship
between manners and morals, which is too often overlooked. The polished
gentleman of sentimental fiction has so long served as the type of smooth
and conscienceless depravity that urbanity of demeanor inspires distrust
in ruder minds. On the other hand, the blunt, unpolished hero of melodrama
and romantic fiction has lifted brusqueness and pushfulness to a pedestal
not wholly merited. Consequently, the kinship between conduct that keeps
us within the law and conduct that makes civilized life worthy to be
called such, deserves to be noted with emphasis. The Chinese sage,
Confucius, could not tolerate the suggestion that virtue is in itself
enough without politeness, for he viewed them as inseparable and "saw
courtesies as coming from the heart," ma