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ction for himself and conferred honor on his country by his scientific discoveries, and your aged friend Mr. Goodman, who, though a stranger to both wealth and fame, is drawing toward the close of a long and useful life, during which he has helped to build up and give character to the place in which he lives, have, each in his own way, _earned_ the right to some token of deference from those who have not yet reached an equally elevated position. It is not for birth, or wealth, or occupation, or any other accidental circumstance, that we ask reverence, but for _inherent nobility wrought out in life_. This is what should give men rank and titles in a republic. Your hired man, Patrick, may be your inferior, but it is not because he is your hired man. Another man, who is your _superior_ in every way, may stand in the same business relation to you. He may sell you certain stipulated services for a stipulated amount of money; but you bargain for no deference that your real social position and character do not call for from him. He, and not you, may be entitled to the "wall side," and to precedence everywhere. II.--CITY AND COUNTRY. The words _civil_ and _civilized_ are derived from the Latin _civitas_ (Ital., _citta_), a city, and _polite_, from the Greek [Greek: polis] (_polis_), a city; because cities are the first to become civilized, or _civil_, and polite, or _polished_ (Latin, _polire_). They are still, as a general rule, the home of the most highly cultivated people, as well as of the rudest and most degraded, and unquestioned arbiters of fashion and social observances. For this reason the rules of etiquette laid down in this and all other works on the subject of manners, are calculated, as the astronomers say, for the meridian of the city. The observances of the country are borrowed from the city, and modified to suit the social condition and wants of the different localities. This must always be borne in mind, and your behavior regulated accordingly. The white or pale yellow gloves, which you must wear during the whole evening at a fashionable evening party in the city, under pain of being set down as unbearably vulgar, would be very absurd appendages at a social gathering at a farm-house in the country. None but a _snob_ would wear them at such a place. So with other things. III.--IMPORTED MANNERS. N. P. Willis says, "We should be glad to see a distinctly American school of good manners, in which
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