st confusion of
hereditary diseases; no family secure, no man almost free from some
grievous infirmity or other. Our generation is corrupt, we have so many
weak persons, both in body and mind, many feral diseases raging among
us, crazed families: our fathers bad, and we like to be worse."
Her husband will want much petting and caressing, and she must foster his
love by lavishing on him much fondness, and ignoring amours as but the
mischievous results of his restless, intriguing mind.
She must let him see in an affectionate way that she can let others enjoy
his company betimes, secure in the knowledge that she is supreme in his
affections--cajolery that flatters his overweening vanity, and rarely
fails.
In anger, as in every other emotion, the neuropath is as transient as he is
truculent. A trivial "tiff" will make him blaze up in ungovernable rage and
say most abominable and untruthful things; even utter violent threats. He
will not admit he is wrong, but like a spoilt child must be kissed and
coaxed into a good temper, first with himself and with others next.
At one moment he is in a perfect paroxysm of fury; five minutes later he is
passionately embracing the luckless object of it and vowing eternal
devotion. In a further five he has forgotten all his remarks and would
hotly deny he used the vexing statements imputed to him.
Epileptics are morbidly sensitive, and reference to their malady must be
avoided. Victims are intensely suspicious, and a pitying look will reveal
to them the fact that some outsider knows all about the jealously-guarded
skeleton. Resentment, distrust and misery follow such an exposure, for
every innocent look is then translated into a contemptuous glance, and the
victim detects slights undreamt of in any brain save his own.
Unless seizures are severe, no one should be called in; if they cause
alarm, ask a discreet male neighbour to assist when necessary, leaving when
the convulsions abate so that the victim is not aware of his presence.
Avoid the word "fit" and "epilepsy", and if reference to the attack be
necessary, refer to it as a "faint" or "turn".
Living with a man liable to have a fit at inopportune times is a tremendous
strain, and the soundest advice one can offer a woman thinking of marrying
such a one is Punch's--"DON'T!"
We have painted the black side, but, tactfully managed, a neuropath will
merge in the kindest of husbands, the most constant of lovers.
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