nted. You should not assume
that your thoughtless word, or harsh manner, or forgetfulness of little
and delicate attentions will have no effect, and will be duly passed by
as unmeaning. No such thing! Every word or look which is incompatible
with genuine love and respect weighs like a millstone. Gentle
attentions will be remembered, not only through the day, but through all
the days. Recently, while on a visit in Irvington-on-the-Hudson, the
widow of a celebrated publisher led me to the portrait of her lamented
husband, and stood in admiration before the magnificent painting. She
then said to me: "I esteem it the greatest honor that could be conferred
upon me to have been the wife of such a man." Could there be a grander
tribute to an attentive and devoted husband?

In that exquisite work, _Memorials of a Quiet Life_, Mrs. Hare pays this
beautiful tribute to her husband: "I never saw any body so easy to live
with, by whom the daily petty things of life were passed over so
lightly; and then there is a charm in the _refinement_ of feeling which
is not to be told in its influence upon trifles." Mrs. Stowe, in
describing the good qualities of the Duchess of Sutherland in her own
home in Scotland, says that she excelled in _considerateness_. Paul's
advice is as beautiful as it is true, and suits young married people
perfectly. In the Revised Version it reads thus: "In lowliness of mind
each counting other better than himself; not looking each of you to his
own things, but each of you also to the things of others." Another piece
of Pauline advice is of equally useful quality: "Let us therefore follow
after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may
edify another."

Happy are they whom death has not yet divided, and to whom it is still
granted to say such words and do such kindly acts as will prove
delightful memories when the Happy To-Days become only Yesterdays in the
Home.

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